Help Save Marriage – Taking The First Step
If you’re looking for ways to “Help Save Marriage” to work on your own marriage, there are some very good tips that you can start to use now – tips that, if put into action, will let you watch your relationship with your parner slowly and surely improve.
Being human, we find that these wise tips are not always so easy to implement, but if you’re really determined to help save marriage then you will be able to find the necessary personal power inside yourself to put these tips into action.
There is one emotion though that most couples in a troubled marriage find the biggest block to being able to positively work on their marriage problems…
RESENTMENT.
… So it’s necessary to find an effective way of releasing this resentment – though for most of us, this is more easily said than done. If you don’t know how to get rid of any resentment you may have, here are 3 ways that many thousands of people have found highly effective:
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One way, presented by Louise Hay in her book “You Can Heal Your Life”, suggests that you close your eyes for a minute or two and imagine a theatre stage in front of you.
In the centre of that stage sits your partner – not as they are now, but as they would have been when they were about 3 or 4 years old – and they are crying, either because they are afraid or they are hurting.
Let your mind imagine the reasons they are crying and ‘turn up the volume’ so to speak, until your heart opens to them with a surge of compassionate and protective love. Some people get an immediate release of resentment but don’t worry if you don’t – just do the exercise at different times of the day for several days and you will find your resentment diminishes.
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Another way to get rid of resentment towards your partner to help save marriage, is to take Dr. Bach Flower Remedies, and the one that deals with resentment is ‘Willow’. If you aren’t familiar with flower remedies yet, they will of course not alter the situations that you feel resentful about, but they will – usually within a 24 hour period – get rid of your emotion about the situations, leaving you light and free to deal with your marital problems in a wise and effective way.
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Yet another way that can yeild amazing results in getting rid of resentment towards your spouse is by using NLP or visualisation methods. If you search on Google you will find a lot of free information on these – but here is a quick and effective little exercise:
Close your eyes for a few moments and imagine your marriage partner doing or saying one of the things that brings resentment to you. Then imagine feeling really surprised with yourself because you are not feeling bad like you usually do …and here you can fill in the blanks as to how you’d like to feel but some examples might be: peaceful, calm, loving, understanding, relaxed – could even be humorous, though not a derisive sort of humour, just able to see the funny side and you could even see your spouse joining in the humour as they also see the funny side.
I really hope these tips help you get rid of resentment so that you can start seriously working on your marriage. Resentment really does need to go as much as possible so all your good efforts to help save marriage don’t get suffocated before you can reap the benefits.
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