Divorced people: How hard before getting a divorce did you try to reconcile your marriage?
Question by QueenofYack: Divorced people: How hard before getting a divorce did you try to reconcile your marriage?
I see a lot of questions here often that talk specifically about wanting nothing more than to get a divorce and with divorce rates so high I just wonder if people really even try to salvage their marriages any more.
Speaking honestly and looking back, did you try to save your marriage before getting divorced. Also if so, then can you give me examples of how.
Thanks
tfblechris: Did you actually put effort into applying anything you learned from counseling or did you just figure by going it would change things? I know it sounds judgmental but I am asking out of curiosity.
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Answer by tfblechris
Marriage counseling for six months every week to no avail.
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Not worth the effort. Did not make any effort. Divorce is worth every penny.
well. I think divorce is way over-rated. We have been through everything, including filing for divorce 1 time. We just learned to communicate better, realized we loved each other & were willing to go through hell to keep it together & believe me…we’ve been there & back! What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. We are very strong & I’m glad we worked through it.There was never any infidelity, just financial etc.
I did everything I could. I knew deep down I could not face my children when they are older if I did not. She left anyway, and what I have learned since makes me think it was for the best.
When ever i told her i still love her and want to work things out i got no response or,another stab in my “now dead” heart.as if she became someone else.it was marriage for me and just an experiment for her ,
that gives you an idea ??
people who post questions about how to get divorced are probably from the same type as my Ex
At some point in every relationship you hit a wall. A mature person sticks with the relationship until you make every effort. If you leave this person rather than trying to work it out you will have the same situation in the next relationship. That is the nature of relationships. Try until someone says no. Trying means counseling.
there was no trying he was an abusive drunk. i went to counseling and that helped me a lot. my ex would get drunk and call me the nastiest names and he would grab me by my throat and throw me against the wall and he had punched me in the back of my neck. he would tell me i deserved it. I worked from 8:30 am until 9:00 or 10:00pm.