Do you think my marriage can be saved?
Question by Cutie Pie: Do you think my marriage can be saved?
I’ve been married for 20 years, but for the last 10 years we’ve been slowly growing apart. I don’t know what to do. We have kids and don’t want to hurt them, but neither one of us is happy any more.
We found this book called Save My Marriage Today ( http://www.bornlovers.com/index3.php ) and thought about trying it. (It’s way cheaper than a marriage counselor. lol) I guess we’re just unsure if anything can help at this point.
Anyone been through the same thing and managed to save your marriage?
Best answer:
Answer by bigmac01
Twenty-years is a good chunk of time together and within this time he should of sowed the oats and she should of sowed hers as well.
Changes will take place, but the most important thing is that they both appreciate each other sexually no matter what.
If you lose that president, then you’ve lost it all.
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Mine is on the rocks right now so I will not be much help. I bought a book “Joined together” and was wanting to do it with my husband and he did not have any interest in it. It looked great and I would do it myself but it needs both spouses to work through it.
spice your marriage up a bit. Bring in new partners and have at it.
If you were so concerned about saving your marriage you wouldn’t be this much concerned paying some extra money to go to a marriage counselor.
you should seek help if you care about your marriage and your kids.
I think it depends on what causes the breakdown of the marriage, what are the things that cause the problems. The odd thing is it is often nothing that cant be fixed. Talking is the only way but do make ground rules of no arguments no talking over each other. If sex is one of them that is a hard one to overcome if one partner does not want it and the other does.
Don’t count on that book saving your marriage. You and your spouse need to determine how determined you both are in doing that yourselves.
There is always hope and sounds like you are both trying to find away to move forward as a married couple.
Maybe find away for both of you to connect again, when was the last time you both did something for the two of you? Start going on dates, allow your passion to return naturally between the two of you. Also have open communication and find ways to connect mentally.
Good luck, I hope you both find happiness regardless of what path it takes you on.
Slowly growing apart is not a reason fro divorce. Especially since you have kids. If the kids are not adults. Work on it.
Get your family into counseling. And get your family to church. In a lot of cases marriages can be “fixed” But it takes work and for most people it seems to hard. Nothing worth keeping is easy.
Would you turn your back on your child if he or she wasn’t doing as they should? Most mothers wouldn’t, They would do ALL they could to save there child from a life of grief. The bible says Leave your mother and your father and cling to your wife! Its a vow that no man should break. So Work at this marriage like your life depends on it. Think of it as cancer and Fight fight fight. Your family is worth every effort. I’m sure he is a good man in many ways. Think of those things and look into his eyes and find that love and desire you once had for him. I wish you the best of luck.