Q&A: How can you save a marriage when he wants a divorce, been away from each other for a year but still talk?
Question by slawson1969: How can you save a marriage when he wants a divorce, been away from each other for a year but still talk?
My husbadn left me in May of 2005 and he says he wants a divorce but we still talk to each other on a regular basis and he says it may just take time to put our family back together but at the same time he says he still wants to go through with the divorce
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Answer by rkrell
The big question is why he thinks the marriage can be saved and still wants a divorce. Those two things don’t fit together and are an indication that maybe he is trying to not hurt you by giving you hope that really doesn’t exist. It will be hard but the best thing you can do for the both of you is make it clear that if the divorce is to go forward then you can’t keep talking all the time and keep you thinking that things will work out. I suspect that he is already moved on and possibly seeing someone. He is trying to be a nice guy and doesn’t want to hurt you but in the end by giving you hope, that isn’t letting you move on with your life and will make it even more painful when this divorce does happen and the relationship ends.
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has he filed yet? i am going through same thing except that we live together still in same house and she has told me she is not in love with me anymore.
I know your in pain, and hoping he will walk back in and say lets fix this. he knows this is how you are,and is taking it for granted.
you need to move on with your life , now i am not saying divorce because marriage is supposed to be forever, i trully beleive in this.
tell him that you would like to goto counseling and if he agrees then he still wants to be together. if not ask him what he thinks needs to be done in order to keep the marriage and family together. if he says time then tell him he has had a year and if he can’t make the decision in a year then he was never committed in first place.
Divorce him, find someone better!