Q&A: I’m very depressed since my wife left me last month? I don’t want a divorce is there anyway to save marriage?
Question by Joel Peterson: I’m very depressed since my wife left me last month? I don’t want a divorce is there anyway to save marriage?
My wife and I have been married 4 years and she quit her job a year ago because we wanted to start a family and she got pregnant fairly quick. She did all of the housework and laundry in our home untill she got 5 months pregnant and then she just stoped cooking,cleaning, and would only wash my work clothing. I also noticed she started spending a lot of my money on stuff for the baby without telling me, so I took away her bank card and started giving her a $ 200 allowance which at the time seemed like a smart idea even though she resisted at first she accepted it. By 6 months our house had not improved so I asked my wife what was wrong and she said she was tired and her feet were swollen so I told her I was going to hire a maid twice a month and have it come out of her allowance. I ended up hiring a maid at that left her with only $ 100 and we both argued for a week about it and then on a friday I got home and my wife had packed her stuff and left. She left me a note telling me how much I hurt her by making what was supposed to be the most amazing time of her life into something she wanted to forget she also reminded me of how she took care of me after my accident and never took my bank card away or put me on an allowance. When I read that it really hit home and I drove to Georgia to bring her back home and she didn’t want to come back with me and then I really knew I messed up big time. My wife and I are still legally married but she said she wants a divorce once our son is born and that she doesn’t want to see me till after she has the baby, so I won’t even get to see my first son be born. I feel awful about how I treated her is ther any way I could try to save our marriage or Am I just hurting her by trying to save it? I already send her flowers daily and call her daily but her mom says she doesn’t want to speak with me. Her mom did tell me she cries a lot and says that she thinks my wife still loves me. What else can I do?
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Answer by Mary S
Wow $ 200/week. Your so mean its not her fault she cant work b/c shes pregnant, and a maid should have never come out of her allowance. She is going through a very difficult time.
To be honest you have tried your best. Maybe you can write her a letter with all your feelings,
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this is fixable, shes being dramatic all she had to do was say ok i get my money back, but she has mama to lean on. yes you definitely will be there when your son is born, go speak to her doctor ask him to notify you when shes in labor,maybe he will —maybe wont— but keep on top of things.
people have everybody under the sun in the delivery room these days, i don’t agree with it but it a wonder some women don’t invite the mailman in, so you as the child’s father should certainly be there. she din’t like you be controlling now she’s acting controlling.
stop the flowers, just to get her re-action, don’t beg just tell her to come home and buy the baby stuff like she first wanted to. putting a wife on an allowance makes her feel like 2 cents.
especially taking the maids money out of her allowance.