saving marriage? any suggestions. no mean people please.?
August 23rd, 2011 by
Question by Single mom nancy: saving marriage? any suggestions. no mean people please.?
my husband and i just barely got married. i really love him. and he says he loves me. but hes giving up on our marriage. what steps can we take to fix our marriage. is there anything you did to help or fix it. no counciling. long story short the last time my husband went to counciling it was for something that has tramatized him so hes scared of going to counciling
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Answer by Val
The absolute best thing you can do, is to ask God heal your marriage & let Him be the head of your home.
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try relaxing , vacating , sex, finding something sexy too wear , go to a hotel act like teenagers , come on , make sexy noises , breakfast in bed , massage his feet , put some thongs on , what you wont do another women willlll
ever heard of the “marriage triangle”?
Basically, the idea is that if you get married for the sake of each other and because you love each other and nothing else matters, it’s not gonna be easy to upkeep the marriage. But if you have a common or shared point in life, then you should both pursue that common goal together, which in turn brings you closer together. Many people take this common goal to be “service to humanity” (or the idea of a God, and the couple each working toward getting nearer to God).
I tried and tried to save my marriage. It was pointless.
I tried counseling, romantic vacations, you name it.
If he wanted to he would. Would you walk through fire to save it? Would he?
It will take both of you. Marriage is hard work.
Without knowing specifically what areas of your marriage your husband is unhappy with, it is next to impossible for anyone to begin to give any suggestions.
you’re having problems so soon? how are you supposed to last another 50 years or more? you need to sit down with your husband and have a heart to heart conversation about it. start dating again like before you were married. get the old spark back. little surprises that make him smile like tickets to his fav sporting event or concert. buying something sexy to wear to bed and doing a little dance for him. just because you’re married doesnt mean you have to be boring. and maybe he really does still love you but now he feels like he’s already got you so he doesnt need to try anymore. he’s your life partner, let him know what you feel. he will listen and respond in a loving caring way.
sorry but i really think u need to go counciling..
although we people from yahoo answers like to give advice… NONE OF US ARE PROFESSIONALS…
maybe instead of going to a professional councilor maybe speak to your church priest or pastor.
alot of the times they will give u the best advice and give u the best steps even though they are not professionally trained and have a degree in psychology .. they have more wisdom and give better advice about relationships than here.
if u really do not want to go councilor try to buy some counciling books for yourself. self-help isle in the bookstore.. you would find alot of books giving u steps to repair your marriage.
best to go councilor..
prayer and god will heal all .. a marriage is hard work dont give up just yet ..
Sit your husband down and calmly explain to him that one person cannot fix everything that is wrong. Tell him if he truly wants this marriage to work, then he needs to give it his all and no excuses will be tolerated. Tell him he needs to decide if he’s willing to do this and he needs to decide right now!