what would you do if you recently found out who the person was responsible for your marriage ending?
Question by flyingdove: what would you do if you recently found out who the person was responsible for your marriage ending?
I been married for over 5 yrs, 6 months ago, my husband filed for divorce unexpectedly- he to this day refuses to tell me the real reason why- instead making up all these BS excuses for why he did this. I do not want a divorce and have tried everything that I know to save this marriage. Recently I found out the real reason why- he has a whore on the side. Not just a regular ‘ho but this woman used to work for him at his school, the same school he worked at when we first met and started dating. In finding various “Clues” and adding them up, I have came to the conclusion that he and this woman used to date back in the mid 90s- he hired her on purpose as he still “liked her” and she him, she and him spent way too much time together during the after school programs- and after he left this school, she was calling him on his personal phone constantly and she shouldnt of been doing that- this caused US to have fights! I than found out she is a “good friend” of his family, his sister is her god mother as she recently got baptized into HIS church. I also found out she recently got divorced in the past 6 months, coincedence that MINE filed for divorce in the last 6 months? I feel that these events have all been planned- that these two plan on getting married in his church (hence her joining) soon after our divorce is final. I feel like a utter fool and feel that the last 6 yrs of my life has been totally wasted. I am very angry and betrayed and want to seek revenge on this whore and my husband. what would YOU do about this- if anything? and how the heck do I recover from this HUGE betrayal? It depresses me so much. Oh and another thing if his family helped this all happen they need to pay too, what kind of family would purposely destroy a family members marriage? that is some kind of serious SICK!
I see some people dont want to lay blame at the feet of the whore- well SHE KNEW he was married and yet she still went after him- that is a SIN in GODS eyes to do that and yes she IS to blame in her part that she did in the demise of the marriage. I was a very faithful good wife and did everything for this man and this is how I get treated? Its nothing I did or could of done to stop this divorce as it takes TWO to make a marriage work and I was missing HIS willingness and cooperation to make it work obviously. Trust me I looked critically into the past and did an honest assessment of my part in this relationship and the only thing I did “wrong” was fall in love with am man who is a lying cheating son of a you know what! and YES he will pay in the end when he stands before God and has to answer for all his sins he has done here, this divorce being one of them.
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Answer by A&E+4
As much as this hurts, all you need to do is sit back and let ms. Karma do her thing
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the best revenge you can do to them, is to succeed without them. with your head held high, your morals in contact and a clean and clear conscience. don’t do stupid things, that only makes YOU look stupid. Be dignified, be strong. accept things how they are because as you said, its been planned, and i doubt you will win anything. and even if you did, why would you want to win such a loser? you are the winner! you get to move on with life and be free of the loser. she gets to keep him and he’ll do the same to her later. or she to him. you’ll see. you have not wasted your life, you have lived it daily. its not a waste. You are on the path God has put you on. Have faith in Him.
hey, i have never been married but im about ready to end lots of peoples lives… there are alot more sick people out there than i thought and they are sicker than i could have thought. my family has screwed me over on everything, always, and always will… they steal phone numbers from me, stalk me, all kinds of sick shit… because they are sick!
anyways, sounds like you should hire a lawyer.
Lay the blame where it belongs – right on your husbands shoulders. No woman can steal your husband without his consent.
Be the better woman — let him go. Why would you want to keep the creep anyway?
Get some counseling to help you deal with this betrayal.
It is a sad thing when something like this happens, but honestly there is really nothing you can do about it. You can’t make him love you again, you can’t make him want to stay with you, you can’t undo the past. You are better off letting him go, don’t look back. Yah, I know easier said than done… but be the bigger person, sign his papers but not before you take him to the cleaners!! Get all you can out of him! I so hope there are no kids involved but if there are, do not ever bad mouth him to them, that will only make them turn to him and stick up for him. Good luck!! And just remember, it was not just her that destroyed your marriage, he has as much to do with it, it takes two. If you need to, talk to a couselor, if you cannot afford one, you can see a pastor.
From what I have read here I would have a long look at myself in the mirror & try to fathom out what I (I repeat “I”) had done to cause the marriage to break down.
Calling someone a whore says more about you than it does about this other woman.
I can also see why hubby wants out!
I’m thinking from the title that you feel your ex husband’s “whore” is the reason for your split?
I don’t feel this is the case. It was your husband who was unfaithful, and he was unfaithful because something was lacking in the relationship (not neccessarily you) or he thought he could get what he wanted soemwhere else (not neccessarily with her).
I can understand that you would be furious right now. But the best revenge would be for you to be happy and move on with your life. I’m also sure none of it was on purpose, unfortunately sometimes people change.
Just try your hardest to let go. If she is low enough to become a mistress, then she is low enough to make his life miserable in some way.
What goes around comes around.
well i be telling everyone i be saying this women name her i file her in the divorce i put opster up in the school lol even better if u get one of them together lolbut do not get caught lol and i tell the minster of the church
I divorce that heart less jerk for half of everything and but not straight away if he lookin for it make it hard for him but never put a hand on either it never worth that
sori near the time of the month it good job i do not have sharp items at hand lol for cheats piss me off lol