Wives in bad marriages need more then an “Optimist-ic” view of things. Why is saving your marriage bad to some?
March 4th, 2011 by
Question by Vanity: Wives in bad marriages need more then an “Optimist-ic” view of things. Why is saving your marriage bad to some?
My husband is a cheater … but I do love him.
Why has trying to save your marriage viewed so bitter by most?
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Answer by Zoe
Because most women deserve better treatment than a husband who is never home and gives them stds.
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Cause their crazy, save your marriage, girl, to hello with them haters.
Well in cases such as yours if a spouse has cheated that does make some bitter towards the relationship. But you can choose to both work on it and leave the bitterness aside. If you both work through this you may even come out stronger in the end.
Chin up!
People never think they can recover and that the affair/s that took place may happen again or as many times it happens to prove a point. You love your husband but that does not mean he loves you. If he is willing to work it out with you so be it. Make sure he is not doing just because.
A lot of people have “deal breakers”. I know I do.
Adultery is on the top of my list but to each his/her own.
Saving your marriage isn’t looked down upon many people these days dont take marriage seriously and think the only way to slove their problems is to end it. In your case, your husband cheated and what it sounds like your saying he continues to do so. Why stay with someone who cant be faithful to you? you are only hurting yourself and failing to see that you cant change him.
Doing everything you can to save your marriage is your obligation, but if you are the only one trying to save it, why bother? Bad marriages can become awesome marriages, but it takes total honesty and complete dedication from both parties.
cause no one believes in the sanctity of marriage anymore. its just a tradition, something that people get around to doing after already having spent years living together and having premarital sex. there is nothing holy about it anymore, divorce is no longer looked down upon because no one fears God anymore. marriage is just a shadow of what it once was, a loosely held tradition that is dying out right along side belief in God.
sure people should have the right to get out of a marriage if they are being abused and if they are being continually cheated on despite trying to work through their problems like with a marriage counselor, but in general people just take divorce too lightly. and why shouldnt they… if marriage is nothing but a tradition to them why should they care, if its easier to just go out and find someone new and exciting and fresh to start over with.
I think its great that you are trying to work through this and save your marriage.. unless he continually cheats and you’ve already tried everything to get him to stop, and he doesnt WANT to stop cheating. cause if that were the case then its understandable people would urge you to leave him. You do deserve someone that wont cheat on you, and if he plans to continue cheating, it is time to get out of this marriage. But if he has repented then you are doing the right thing by trying to get through this with him.